Young womenbegin to fall apart at this moment!

Qiantang zinc technology December 18, 2016

This paper is a comprehensive arrangement ofzhihu

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Theso-called "random", is the fatal injury

There's alaw in psychology called the 20-mile rule.The law was developed by Americanpsychologist Jim Collins.The rule is that San Diego, on the west coast of theUnited States, is 3,000 miles from some point in the world.How many miles a dayis the right pace?The answer is 20 miles a day, or 32 kilometers a day.If youdo that, it will take about 150 days, or about five months, to complete thejourney.

However, fewpeople can complete the journey in five months or even half a year. Many peoplewould be surprised if they insist on walking 20 miles every day.Not in fivemonths. Not in six months?It's easier said than done, and then we can dividetravelers into three categories.

The firstkind of travelers often hide in tents to complain when the road is bad and theweather is bad. They wait until the weather is fine.However, the weather issunny and the roads are smooth.When all the conditions are met, they can walk40 or even 50 miles a day, but after that, they will stop and stop for a longtime after encountering external disturbance. It usually takes eight to tenmonths for such tourists to reach the destination.

The secondkind of traveler can walk 40 miles a day at the beginning of his journeybecause he is in a good mood and energetic.While the passengers are not subjectto the weather and road factors in the journey of interference is too big, butalong with the advancement of journey, the travellers mood low, gradually losttheir enthusiasm and interest, the beginning of the period after walking speedalso gradually becomes more and more slow, the passenger is often take seven toeight months to reach the finish line, too hard people tend to run not far fromthe start.

If the thirdkind of passengers are not special circumstances, no matter the weather is goodor bad, the journey is muddy, the heart can always maintain a goodself-discipline, throughout the journey every day insisted on walking 20 miles,finally this kind of passengers completed the whole journey on schedule,arrived at the destination.

In the end,only those who maintain self-discipline and consistently walk 20 miles a dayachieve their goals and reach their destinations on time.

The 20-milerule is the rule of self-discipline. Always follow the online and offlinerules. Learn self-discipline.

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Mostinsidious of all, is a side kill

One of themost insidious ways I've ever seen to destroy a human being is to hold his own

Hold aperson high enough to be unworthy, to be arrogant, frivolous, crazy,self-righteous, and then let that person make a big mistake because ofarrogance -- some people may be able to bite their teeth to withstand endlessoppression and humiliation, but no one can resist the daily sugar-coated shellsof brainwashing.

People whoare praised often don't realize the seriousness of the problem -- who doesn'tlike to be praised, the feeling of being praised?When calumny enough ear,enough beautiful, who will care about the ear of the faithful?

Scary?But infact, in recent years, I found a very bad sign -- there are more and moregirls, their problem is no longer to build confidence, no longer is to know howto protect their own rights, or even know how to be good to themselves.Theirbiggest problem was that they took themselves too seriously.Some girls havebeen praised and killed, and every day a group of girls join them.

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She opensher official account and microblog every day, and will receive endlessadulation -- the boys who make her unhappy are all straight men with cancer,Chinese men are not worthy of Chinese women, good-looking girls have burn moneyconstitution, in love with a small contradiction is the boyfriend naiveridiculous...

And thenwhat kind of guy is good enough for them?

He must bemasculine and gentle and delicate;He must read countless people, but also pureignorance;He must live a good life, but also guard the jade;He must have asuccessful career and look after his family and children.He must be debonairand single-minded.

8~28 yearsold is the most valuable age group for most girls in their life. As long as agirl who does not look angry, she will be more or less pursued and favored byall kinds of boys.

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But the mostimportant thing to think about when you're in the dividend period is not howyou're going to get more, but what you're going to do when you're out of thedividend period.

And thesepeople in the dividend issue just met those PengSha their speech, started tofeel good psychological and a side person please and flattery, making them moreand more feel on high, forget to ask yourself one of the most critical problem:if one day I lost my age gives me the advantage of, how many people will dothis to me?

One day,when dividend period, they either find yourself moment between become empty, orreluctant to look for a "Candide" flange had a tasteless life everyday street-gang members -- they are reluctant to take action and to meet theirown ambitions, they are greedy vanity but I do not want to take out dry goodsfor they want to live.That's how people are destroyed.

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1、Get addicted to things that are easy to get a high sense ofaccomplishment.

Investment=== return

Slightlyaddicted to games, addicted to novels, addicted to shopping.

Seek,consciously or unconsciously, the folk prescription of getting a great"return" with a small amount of effort, even if the return isvirtual.This kind of behavior will increase their "excitementthreshold", making people less and less likely to have a sense ofachievement, and thus more and more dependent on the virtual sense ofachievement, into a vicious circle.Mild symptoms: gaming (speeding up thepassage of time in the virtual world, making "success" happen faster),stallions (psychosexuality people can easily get what they want);Symptom isheavy even break the law: gamble (get easily "money"), take drugs(get easily "cool" feeling) wait.

2.、Only receive "low information density"information sources, refuse to think, only receive fast food information.

Drink ===bread

Low-densityinformation = TV series + entertainment gossip + micro blog

They areonly willing to receive information with low information density (such asvideo, pictures, entertainment, gossip, sports news, etc., which do not requiretoo much brain power), rather than information with high information densityand which can only be absorbed after thinking (such as courses, knowledgeframework, analysis report, etc.).Since most valuable and progressive informationneeds to be thought through and digested, if you completely isolate this partof the content, you basically isolate the possibility of progress.

3、Habit with "dislocation sense of achievement"paralyze oneself, habit with dislocation sense of achievement paralysisoneself.

Dislocation= left block + right block

Escape fromimportant matters = work is not finished but I read + customer did not visitbut I fixed the phone + report is not finished but I gave the leadership water.

Dislocationcomparison = with the new than the length of service + with the boss thansimple + with the strong than easy

There aretwo types: (1) used to take their own good at things and others are not good atthings to compare, never get the illusion of "stronger than others"(such as: and athletes than academic performance, and excellent results ofstudents than sports);(2) used to take other people do things A time to dothings B, to pretend that they do well in things B (such as: "showoff" oneself in the holiday to do more work than others, but only in theholiday can be so).

4、 Over-reliance on the "existing feasible path"and trust only the past experience rather than innovation.

The purposeof the file package.

Conformism=W (used to write reports in word,+ used to use word).

Noimprovement =P (PPT look good to how + those who do PPT people are playingvirtual.

In work,after getting used to the process of one thing, I never thought about how toimprove it any more. I just repeated it mechanically and then lied to myselfthat I was full.Without improvement, there is no awareness of eliminatingdross. As a result, there are more and more things that need to be re

peated andtime consuming. In the end, it seems that I do a lot of things every day.

5、Close the "reinforcement learning" channel, closethe reinforcement learning channel.

Walk into astreet with no exit.

Learn not toreview = PPT class have heard + listened to the line.

I havelearned to use PPT + but I just don't want to use PPT to write a report.

In study orreceive information, only willing to perform the first step in the most simple,but I do not want to perform more complex next to consolidate and applicationprocess, not only listen, look not only written, only to learn don't practice,said paralysis himself also learned a lot, and, in fact, the"shallow" learning forget very quickly, sometimes it is better tolearn.For example, every day to learn English, but never write Englisharticles;For example, spend a lot of time every day brush zhihu, but neverwrite the answer, write a summary.

Most of thepeople who eventually fall into disuse are people with relatively highideals.When we say that a person is invalidated, an implicit premise is that hecould have, or could have.So, there are not many ideal people at the beginning,not waste, plain is the true flavor of the world, flat light things can persistfor a long time can be great, craftsman spirit is so much.Any great cause, theprocess is destined to be trivial, boring, seemingly no progress, the greatsignificance is to adhere to the trivial and process of the efforts, and thenthrough the great achievements.Wastepeople, only to see the great, did not see behind the great trivial.

Author: zengjia, hong sang, jiang cheng, etc